To GS, about guilt, and worrying you’re a bad person.
Bad people do bad things and have a narrative in their head that makes it okay. They think their behaviour is justified and that anyone who challenges them just needs to hear the narrative, then they’ll understand and excuse the behaviour. Good people do bad things but know they’re bad. They don’t try and justify their behaviour, and in fact actively work to not do that behaviour again.
The best response to good people doing bad things (because we all do bad things sometimes, it’s part of being human) is to support them in not repeating that behaviour, rather than ostracising and condemning them , which is what I think should happen to people who hurt others and have some kind of justification for it. It’s not easy to say that to people who’ve been actively hurt by this behaviour though - “oh I know whoever hurt you but he’s a good person really, let it go”.
To DN, about social communication being a code:
Social communication is all code, we aren’t telephatic, so it’s encoding our thoughts into a syntax that’s readable for other humans. (Like a computer.) It’s cumbersome and imperfect but I don’t know a better way.
With some people you can speak a different language. Strangers it’s like interacting with a website you’ve never used before, you need to make things clear, they haven’t used you before, need big clear buttons and obvious signposting so they know their way around.
People you know better it’s more like a programme you know well so you can use keyboard shortcuts and do things really quickly and turn off fancy graphics and maybe mod it up a little.
And then people you know REALLY well you can read their code directly and see straight into it without any interface.
12 hours of labs this week plus full lecture timetable. No time for posts. Next Wednesday my Wednesday morning labs end - will have a spare few hour. Try to make that regular blogging slot.
I am very sorry for lack of posts, I miss this blog, I just have SEVENTY THOUSAND THINGS TO DO and also I have awful time management skills.